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Monday, August 9, 2010

update on being matched

After the earthquake, the number of children brought into the orphanages more than doubled. People were coming out of the woodwork trying to get these post-earthquake children adopted or "moved" out of the country (some for good reason, some in ridiculously idiotic ways, others for personal gain and reasons too horrible to imagine). The problem was that nobody knew if these children were truly orphaned or if they had families somewhere looking for them. One of the reasons why new adoptions were going to take so long was because the government needed to give time for families to come forward and claim their children or find documentation showing true orphan status (ie: parents passed away during the earthquake or relinquished their parental rights, etc.). Frustrating to wait, but clearly for a good reason. It would be devastating to adopt a child and then find out that they had a family looking for them.

This period of time where the government was waiting for families to come forward is coming to a close. And last week I got a report that 25 of the children who were brought in to the orphanages I visited have been reunited with their families since the earthquake. 25, just in the orphanages I visited. Amazing. There are of course several more who are sill in limbo, waiting for documentation one way or another. And there is a much smaller number (about 6 or 8) of the new orphans brought in after the earthquake that have finally been determined actual orphans and will become available for adoption very soon. I really feel like one of these is mine. Gina (the amazing orphanage director) has been reviewing my home study and is extremely insightful in her decisions of which child should go to which family. It is a very personal and spiritual process for her, and London and I have been praying for her every night that she will be directed to the right child. Needless to say, I am dying to find out who he or she is. I think I check my e-mail like 50 times a day at least, waiting for word on which children are available and if we have been matched. Every time I get a little bit of information on the process, it is like my empty tank gets refueled. Everyone I know who has gone through an adoption has described the process as a roller-coaster of emotions. Which it absolutely is. Got to hang on to those ups.

Hopefully in my next post I will be able to include pictures of the little guy (or girl)...

If you are interested in statistics (I am and I’m not afraid to say it) here are a few stats on Haiti. Keep in mind, all of these numbers were from before the earthquake:

Haiti is considered to be the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere and one of the poorest countries in the world

Population 9.2 million
Number of estimated orphans in Haiti (in 2007) 380,000
% of the country with no access to clean water or basic health care 60%
Percentage of the country living in poverty 80%
Percentage of the US living in poverty 13%
Percentage of the Haitian population that is illiterate 50%
Percentage of the US that is illiterate 01%
Average total years of education in Haiti 2.5 years
Average total years of education in the United States 16 years
Average life expectancy in Haiti 57 years
Average life expectancy in the US 78 years

10 comments:

SydneyMin said...

I'm so excited for you, Natalie. It's great that they were not just giving babies away that were supposedly orphans. I think this happened a lot in Eastern Europe before they cracked down on foreign adoptions. At least in Romania, many kids were actually abandoned not orphaned. very sad situation. Who wouldn't want their own kid??? Good luck!

Tonya Mae Wilson said...

When are they going to tell you who it is already?! I know that they know! So when's it gonna be?! You better tell me the second you find out. I am SO excited for you!!

Tonya Mae Wilson said...

Natalie! I'm STILL waiting! This is KILLING ME! We need to be able to start planning and dreaming together for and about our little ones!

natalie and london said...

Tonya, I love you. I seriously don't know what I'd do without your support in going through the exact same thing! It is absolutely all I can think about! Why can't they just tell me??? Anyways, I am still planning on going back in September, I know you just got back and I want to hear all about it. I LOVE your pictures and videos!!!

Tonya Mae Wilson said...

Oh, I am SO ready to go back. Although, they have started making me limit my time with baby G since he's figured out who I am and it creates problems when I'm not around. :( They need to just hand him over to me already!

Have you emailed and asked them to please introduce you to your child??
Do you have your tickets bought for September?

Tonya Mae Wilson said...

P.S. I have been hearing rumors that the Utah Haiti Relief group is going back to Haiti in the next few weeks...

natalie and london said...

So, I emailed Heather over a week ago and have not heard back. I also heard that rumor about UHR going back and I am completely in for going too!!! Would you be in? I have not bought my ticket yet for September, I was kind of waiting to see who was going when, so that would be perfect for me.

I just want to be able to know WHO IT IS. Argh! My plan is to go down there, give Gina a humongous hug and refuse to let her go until she tells me who it is. Then, if I can meet him or her just for a minute, I don't even want to spend too much time with them, I know that probably sounds crazy. But, I know myself, and you know better than me, I am scared to leave after bonding with them so much. It is absolutely heart-wrenching. Let's get on this next trip!!!

Whitney said...

Nat- We are so thrilled for you and are praying for you as well! Adoption is something so special that those who go through it can feel that same connection! Hang in there and go with those feelings of that child waiting for you. . .they will be so lucky to have you and London!

Heather Anne said...

Finally had a moment to sit down and catch up on your blog. We pray for you guys every night. Can't wait to meet your sweet new addition to your family. I have a feeling you'll know soon!
Love you so much!

Stephanie said...

I'm so excited for you!!! I hope you hear some news really soon. Where is Gina's orphanage? I'm going to be in Port-A-Prince for a few days before I head over to the orphanage that I'm helping in Saint Marc. We need to get together before I leave.

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